Your kid comes home from school.
“They were mean to me in the playground.”
You freeze.
Every part of you wants to fix it.
You want to call the school.
Find the teacher next morning.
Sort it out.
But do you need to be the person who fixes this?
After all, you won’t always be there.
You probably won’t even be there next time.
And when you rush to fix every conflict, your child learns:
– “I can’t handle this.”
– “Someone else has to make it fair.”
– “When I have a big feeling, I need an adult to take charge.”
Those are the seeds of victimhood.
Instead, here are 3 tools you can teach your kids:
1. Self-regulate
(So they don’t explode and make it worse)
2. Speak clearly
(Without whining, blaming, or over-explaining)
3. Walk away if needed
(From strength, not weakness)
If you practice these 3 things at home, you start to build muscles for dealing with conflict that will help your kids their whole lives long.
(Many adults never learn this stuff!)
