Most parenting advice focuses on the WRONG thing.
You will never achieve perfect gentle zen calm.
You *will* get distracted.
You *will* raise your voice.
You *will* say the wrong thing.
What matters most is what you do NEXT!
Because – and this is backed by decades of attachment research –
“Repairing ruptures is the most essential thing in parenting.”
(That’s from Dr Dan Siegel of UCLA. He’s THE guy on attachment.)
But most of us were never shown how.
So we either freeze, defend, or move on too quickly, then hope our kid ‘gets over it.’
Here’s a better way.
I made a one-pager with 7 common moments of ‘rupture’ and, for each, a clear, science-backed phrase to use instead.
These help you model empathy, self-regulation, and repair.
Collectively they demonstrate that your love never wavers, even when you’re distracted or tired.
