How to build a great nanny share

Nanny shares provide great social benefits and can help existing friendships blossom or facilitate completely new ones.

Here are some top tips to make sure you’re on the right track.

1.       Focus on getting to know each other first

If you don’t know the other family in your share already, it’s probably not realistic to expect to agree on every single little detail of how the share will work in your first conversation. 

Don’t worry, just take it one step at a time.

The most important thing in the first meeting is that you start to build a good relationship, and leave thinking, ‘We can get on with these people.’

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2.       Agree on the basics

Having said that, you should at least cover the very basics in your first meeting.

We’ve listed some of them below in case you are in need of some inspiration, but feel free to add more to the list.

  • What days and times will the share be? Will the nanny do any ‘unshared’ hours, i.e. hours for only one family?
  • Are drop-offs and pickups required?
  • What location(s) will the share be in?
  • What language will the share be in?

3.       Agree on the details

If things are going well in your first meeting and you have time, you might want to agree a few more details.

  • How will you communicate with each other and with the nanny?
  • What will be your approach to sickness, holidays and changes of hours? 
  • What level of food reimbursement and kitty spending will you have? For food, we suggest £2 per child per meal will usually be about right

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4.       Agree on expectations for your nanny

By now you’re probably running out of steam, so you might want to pause and schedule another conversation to discuss what you’re going to ask your nanny to do on a daily basis.

It’s important though, so don’t skip it entirely.

As joint employers, you’ll need to be clear with your nanny about your ‘share rules’. Your nanny will thank you for it!

  • What kinds of activities will you ask the nanny to do with the kids?
  • Will you ask the nanny to follow a specific routine, or leave it up to her?
  • What will you ask of the nanny in terms of discipline and behaviour management?
  • Are the kids allowed screen time?
  • Can the nanny give the kids treats? How about juice?

Even just the fact that you’ve talked about these issues upfront will give your nanny a lot of comfort that you’re going to be good nanny share employers. 

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